The Christian mandate is to live a life of love in the moment one is living, but plans get in the way and create conflict.
Why do we tear each other down with the things we say? Could it be we say bad things because we are bad people?
The call of faith is to trust in God, every step, in all circumstances, resulting in a life of visible love.
The trap is to believe that an act of compassion only benefits the recipient, but the giver receives a higher return. In giving compassion, one is conforming to the pattern of Christ.
When we quiet the voices that say we deserve better, the voice of God becomes evident. We can truly live the life of love to which God has called.